Self-destruct, and take the easy way out. I have begun traveling without him because he wont go. Ayyy ahora si ya les cuento todito lo que pas De verdad que miedo Its from Donna: I so agree..I had supported my husband for years while he went to school. You might be unwittingly putting distance between yourself and your partner by being too busy. They are NOT as unhappy as they profess themselves to be. Was so close to call out to my h and ask, but then my little girl started to take off. I can see where boredom could be a contributing factor to cheating, especially at work, lol. So making comments and getting feedback really helps me. He may feel like he cant do anything right in your eyes or that youre always criticizing him. I was tiresome and costing me a fortune! He needs to stop using his depression as an excuse for not putting effort in this relationship and if it's this bad he needs to get it under control and start on medication or start seeing someone. She made sure to find me enough work to make sure I never uttered or even thought those words again! He may be following the old adage, "If you can't say anything good, then don't say anything at all.". I want him to do SOMETHING, but hes happy with being on his laptop or watching the depressing news all day long. Not even for the kids. Some people think that threats have to be physical in nature to be problematic. My husband actually says he has a NEW and DEEPER appreciation of not only me and our marriage, but our family as well. Now shes pregnant (its mine) and I dont really have a choice. Once her (much older) husband started doing things to increase his T-levels, he once again became more active, horny, etc. My husband retired last year and although he has time to do things, he does nothing. being a friend to. the list goes on and on and on. Your boys sound wonderful, and your husband is an idiot. Once he achieves them, youll have plenty of quality time together. 6. It ticks me off because I loved and supported him and he knew it. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to assist you. I feel trapped and I dont want to live life separately from him, but I really have no choice but to move on and do things on my own. Everyone makes mistakes, and your husband is no exception. Then, really invite your husband to share his experience of what's been happening in the marriage. Kind of hard though. Big surprise. Its important to have hobbies and interests outside of your relationship. He claims it's his depression stopping him from wanting to do anything, but the problem is when he has his mind set on going or doing something he'll do it. he had an emotional affair a few years ago and I have had a hard time forgiving him but I do not let him know this. I shortly thereafter met Josh (he was actually my roommate!) Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy something through our posts, we may get a small share of the sale (more details here). he doesnt want things to improve. I think your awesome, full of integrity and heart! I hope that eventually you can look back on your marriage and not look at it as wasted time. Sound familiar? You endured much more than most would be able to. Take care. but thats not our problem. While it IS true that there is not a marriage on this planet that could not benefit from better communication, increased date nights and focus on each other as a couple, etc, feel free to add your wants and needs.Cheating is WRONG. You never know, once your husband sees what a great time you are having. Problem is, is that when I do, he texts or calls me frequently asking when Ill be home. That too is wrong. Doug, What to do if my husband doesn t like spending time with my family? Veiled or overt threats, against you or them. You can also look for ways to connect during the day, like taking a walk together or sharing a coffee break. We never get invited out anywhere together as a couple. So as a reward for trying to keep my marriage together I get to work harder than ever on our relationship while my character and personality is constantly on trial. I encourage you to ask me for clarification, if you are not clear with my Answer. But before you jump to conclusions, there are a few other possible explanations for why your husband doesnt want to spend time with you. Maybe even in a better, truer, more open and honest way. Also when a person complains about being bored they are often bored with themselves not their marriages or spouses. It's an example of his own insecurity and need to control you. This is bonding time. Routine can also lead to emotional isolation in marriage. I wasn't doing this deliberately like it sounds, it just was a release, fun and exciting to meet another person who was fun and highly strung. Travelling alone is a whole new experience and in my experience, you meet people wherever you go. However, some people are just habitually negative and don't understand how miserable they are making themselves as well as the . That was still intact. We become so busy raising our kids, that we neglect to pursue our OWN interests and hobbies, especially as a couple. I am sure that when most of us look back they realize how little effort the cheater put into any of those things prior and during the affair. Our friends and their issue were on-again, off-again topics of discussion between Linda and I for a few days after our night out. And so, the million-dollar question isWhat inspires us to choose to be (and stay) monogamous? Growing up the worst thing I could say to my mother is that I was bored. This is not an all-inclusive list. Either way, its essential to discuss whats going on and how its impacting your relationship. They didnt really do anything or go anywhere special together and to the casual observer, certainly not anything or anywhere exciting. Refusal to go for walks could be signs of an underlying behavioral issue. Here are 15 signs of an unhappily married man. My first husband seemedin control, too. He stops asking about your life. Admitting that, its natural if you have those sentiments and are furious at him. Doug, Linda, anyone elseone topic I would love to see discussed: how do you handle ti when the topic of affairs comes up in discussion with friends, etc. First, try taking a more proactive approach by planning fun activities that you can do together. Keep your chin up girl, we are all rooting for you! Additionally, try not to nitpick everything that he does wrong. She was not invested like I was. The judge stated that nobody wins in a divorce. You don't get a free pass. I have even spoken with his dr. Who says she doesnt see it yet he has all the signs. Yet he is still here, just as is your h. Why couldnt he show me that he could drop her, when I was feeling good about myself. They were bored. and weve been together 3. we have a son. If you focus on his negative qualities, itll only push him away. 2 Answers - ( Newest, 16 November 2009) A female age 30-35, anonymous writes: i am 19years old and my husband is 20 and this feb 14th 2010 we will be married for 2 years. Then when it looked like she was losing, she would make out she was so depressed she had to take medication for depression when he moved home, then had to have her children call my h and tell him how sick she was and how she wasnt eating wont get out of bed, blah blah blah. At least mine was, for a while. I ask because I feel exactly the same way as you. If youre constantly asking your husband to spend time with you, he may feel like youre not putting in enough effort to make it happen. I hate men like that. . Giz, you one of the most remarkable people I have met on this journey. Yes, she says she feels remorse but she is still defensive about what she did. Don't suppress your desire and build up resentment. The excitement and stimulation came from the illicitness of what they were doing sneaking around on their spouses like teenagers. Rachel, I am so sad that this is the path you have been forced to walk. I commented on his IG. I wasnt neglecting him or abusing him in any way. 1. I also remember a few years ago my husband saying he would honor his boring commitment. Guess The Turd does more interesting things like eat sushi, try to look phat and fresh, and try to be a hipster. "Love and affection should be evident not only to you, but . All for some worthless, bunny boiling slut. Go on the internet and look for a "Penis Pump" and order one for him.. I know exactly how you feel. Linda claims it was the other two women that were doing all of the complaining (uh, huh) and the core complaints were that their husbands never wanted to do anything and were basically boring stick-in-the-muds. I have to agree. My dr had wanted me to start being on medication for depression but had also said things would be better if your h would change his attitude and start helping you, because this is why you are so depressed. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules. Encourage and compliment your spouse. And as the years go by and more time and effort is devoted to raising and nurturing kids and taking care of all of lifes other issues, this weakness, along with adventure and passion, is often overlooked. Ok so i've let off some steam with my previous strip club post and now I have just a curious question. If he's super passive aggressive or he doesn't like confrontation, this could be his way of telling you that he doesn't want a serious relationship with you. The glue as our therapist says. The affair has changed that for me. Best wishes Rachelyou have won what is most important to you!!! If your spouse feels like youre always trying to get him to do things or constantly talking to him, it can be tough to want to spend time with you. Its called denial and justification and it is a POWERFUL thing. I make almost six figures but because the entire household rest on me, it doesn't feel like it. This came to our email by mistake. I handled it FAR better than he did, and I think I should be the one ranting and raving over how bad it made me feel. SHOW NOTES To see pictures of Stacy on some of his many climbing . I busted my ass for 2 years afterward trying to keep her stimulated with things to do, trips, vacations, outingswhatever. Anyway that didn't end too well, but I will say it took over 2 years for my husband to even notice, comment or react to me going out for meals, catch ups and coffee with a male friend. What do you do when your spouse doesnt want to spend any free time with you? 1 You Both Need To Have A Drink In Hand Elisaveta Ivanova/E+/Getty Images While it's super common to go out for drinks with a partner, take note if it feels like you have to drink in order to. Time will tell. Most partners want to make their S/O happy so tell them how. Just not appropriate to do so with anyone else. Plus, he flatly turned down my request that he get counseling or even that WE get counseling. Two key things: our passion and our principles. If I had listened to my gut and gone with my instinct, I could have stopped this all much much sooner. Constantly needing reassurance from your spouse can be suffocating and is likely one of the reasons why hes pulling away. 4) He doesn't know how to bring something up. That is a rough thing to admit, but doing so frees me of any thought that any cheater isnt responsible for his or her actions. Having him believe something that wasnt true. I have often thought about why I dragged my feet too. We can only imagine how his own eyes and mind were deceiving him. He's Totally Stopped Texting You Back. Unless I wanted to peruse thing it would have cost me between 15,000-20,000. We both are. But some expectations. they are dependent on those activities. Below, psychologists and marriage therapists offer 7 common signs that a spouse may be growing restless in a relationship. This is a big red flag, and my advice is to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline and discuss this with someone there because. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. e. just because someone throws something down it doesnt mean you have to pick it up. Blessings friend! How profound. Yeah I know..not productive, LOL. For many years I have silently said to myself (as my husband worked almost 80 hours/week and let vacation time go because he was too busy to take time off), I told myself to hang in there, itll work out at some point. Question: My husband will not let me out of the house without him. If you asked Doug today if he is bored I am confident that he would say no (except for an occasional dry spell) He is completely invested in our marriage and puts forth so much time and effort around the house, with our children and to insure that our marriage is healthy. I stayed home with the kids, took care of all the household stuff, cooking cleaning etc. I have to beg him. If you two never go out anywhere together, then I would say that he's using you for sex (or hopes to soon). My h was telling me on the weekend how his mistress told him, if I didnt want my children, how she would be so happy to raise them with him. This could be an emotional affair or a physical one. If your husband feels like youre constantly nagging him, hell likely start to dread spending time with you. My husband is retired and never wants to do anything. Its in cases just like this that many people turn to infidelity in an ill-fated attempt to solve their boredom (or some other) problem. So, if you think this might be the explanation for the issue my husband never wants to do anything with me, make an effort to lose weight, get a new haircut, or buy some new clothes. I basically told him I understand how shamed and guilty that all made him feel, but he has done the crime and this discussion WILL come up from time to time. I totally agree, Decimated. Thats like saying its ok for me to walk into a bank and steal money if the security guard isnt looking. 1. I think the trap your friends fell into was set years ago. Eg John, you really have to (as hard as it is) discount the things they say while still in the affair fog. Hes preoccupied with other things. Exercise grace I relate entirely to the one-women circus comment (except the women part-haha.) or situations/content involving minors, Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. As you say, freedom to do what you want, and in my husband's case, no mood swings, he is always just even tempered. Just a little! Since monogamy is an ongoing choice, its something that has to be inspired over the long term. In contrast my H is in the worst shape hes ever been and for the first time I see him slightly worried about how he compares to the men I must see at the gym. He often jokes about leaving his wife. i really dont mind cleaning, i used to clean the house for him all the . he says he knows I am fighting for us but he also knows me and I am just getting ready for when we divorce. When you and your spouse are talking, put down your cell phone, set aside distractions, and focus on each other. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. But if you strongly believe: My husband doesn t like spending time with my family and me, it might not be personal. An issue my husband never wants to do anything with me could also mean that hes an introvert and he just needs some time alone to recharge. You might feel like youre not good enough or that hes finding someone else to replace you. Do you often think, my husband doesn t like spending time with my family and me? Something along the lines of, well if he was happy he wouldnt be with me. Apparently its not caused by lack of love at all, but probably more likely due to the lack of newness, adventure and passion. there was a time he was the life of the party and now.I believe he is depressed and has seen his doctor and neurologists for his headaches but no one has told him he may suffer from depression . The responsibility for what you did is totally on YOU, no one else. Its all about him and hes still in control! Yes! You have your sons hearts, love, support, and respect. You are so VERY right. Pre-affair I was as guilty as anyone. It makes me sick the lengths she went to, and I truly believe it was her manipulation, making him feel guilty for him being home with his family. It may be kind of obscure sometimes but its there. Blah blah blah. For example, would he prefer to spend time alone with you? No matter how much our friends love each other and they do they are not immune to boredom. My own personal sob story 20 years ago was that my husband was an alcoholic, and that he was physically abusive to me. This commitment keeps me here but I dont know what kind of godly marriage this is, when he contributes no energy or time to it. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban. 25 Signs Your Husband Doesn't Love You Anymore 1. Strong words eg thanks. There has to be a shift in thinking and approach here. It can be a major weakness to a marriage. While I used to assume that he valued our time together as much as I did, and assume that he wanted to do things together, I no longer do. If your husband is cheating on you, its crucial to confront him and figure out what to do next. Absolutely NOT ! Eg, its funny you commented about being a step ford wife, lol. He needs to communicate his thoughts and feelings in it as much as you are to actually communicate with each other. Discover the 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity, Most of the Time My Husband Doesnt Want to do Sh*t, No Such Thing As TMI The Importance of Full Disclosure After You Have Had an Affair, Affair Recovery Moving On After Infidelity, Taking Inventory: A New Approach to the New Year & A Betrayed Spouses Bill of Rights, Follow our journey as we save our marriage after an emotional affair, Terms of Service/Privacy Policy/Affiliate Disclosure. I WON! Welcome to r/relationship_advice. What should I do if my husband never wants to do anything with me? Alternately, the affair partner wants to place the blame on the cheating spouse. Feminize me, fuck me, and make me yours. everything else is just circumstantial, and an excuse. This isnt personal its a symptom of their mental illness. 3. one of the bs excuses my wife made after her affair was how shed found new excitement. Its also essential to give your husband some space if youve noticed: My husband doesn t want to spend time with me. Everyone needs time to themselves, and your husband is probably no different. Without getting into too much of the details and background, it is apparent to us that they have fallen into a serious marital trap. John Johnson says that to do that we must design lifestyle relationship rituals that create the conditions by which love and loyalty are rewarded (rather than ignored). This will make him feel valued and appreciated and more likely to want to spend time with you so you wont complain: My husband never wants to do anything with me. You dont have to fake excitement about every little thing, but ask questions and express genuine curiosity about what hes passionate about. It was all about ME and what I should or shouldnt do, NOT about him and the nasty tramp he was running around with, protecting, putting on a pedestal, f. I can and will choose PEACE for my life. Don't think your heavy sighs and the comments made under your breath are going unnoticed. If you feel like. I kind of envy the people who say.we were on the verge of divorce before the affair and I can kind of see why it happened. But you already know that, lol. A Crappy Vacation Told Me My Marriage Was Really Over. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. He did help out by having someone come in once a week and do the heavier cleaning. Saturday night we met up with two other couples who we consider to be some of our closest friends. My husband doesnt try to do ANYTHING. I finally decided that she will never appreciate how much I did for herbefore or after her cheating. "My husband never wants to go anywhere, all he ever thinks about is gumbo, gogo, and dodo." gree gree , any object of contrivance used to conjure harm or evil to the recipient. I have found that this site has been so helpful to me, it is just incredible. Oh, one more thing. Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married one year. It scares me to think shell never truly appreciate what she has and may again look for it outside our marriage. Well some days will be poorer (and not just in money). Plan a weekly date night where you go out to dinner or see a movie, Go on weekend trips together even if its just for a few hours, Make time for a weekly game night or hobby night, Exercise together this can be anything from going for a walk to playing tennis. The real reason is that the person reached a point where they became so selfish that this activity became ok in their own eyes. Or well, our marriage had really drifted apart and I knew we were very disconnected. He lied to her, manipulated her, made her promises he didnt keep. Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. Fcol, its very tiresome, I guess we just have to focus on our h losing their way and were not strong enough to see their way clearly. You have to commit, for better or worse. Everywhere you look there are things telling us how to be hotter in the bedroom, cook healthier more exciting menus, pick up thrilling new hobbies. Press J to jump to the feed. The full 3 months have gone by and your dog has settled in. Of course, this doesnt mean that you should never spend time with your spouse. Besides, Im a fun person and I do like to do sh*t! When you think about it, it makes sense. In fact, that is one of the explanations we have for one our friends. Make your moments together count. Communication is just not you expressing your issues and him just agreeing. These are the games she played, along with you promised me thus, you promised me that, boo hoo. Perhaps in the UK or somewhere you have been before. I believe that is why most BS wouldnt even think about entering an affair, really who had the time and energy. Dear sister, yes, these feelings haunt me daily. Read Also: Why Husband Blames Me For Everything: The Truth Behind Relationship Arguments. Excellent point Doug. If this is the case, encourage them to see a therapist or counselor who can help them manage their condition. He has friends, hobbies, and other commitments that compete for his time. My husband never wants to go anywhere . Just wanted to let you know I understand what youre going through, youre not alone! I couldnt understand her whole bored thing. When your partner has your back, they'll be able to say those three important words sincerely and out loud in front of other people. Exercise Grace, I totally agree. My husband is a person who has illness after illness. They questioned whether or not they had anything in common anymore with their husbands. Its his fault for not paying enough attention. It was his stress and depression and need for escape. I had counseled with Jed diamond who believed he is depressed but my husband will not even consider this. When we first got together I was 16 and I definitely had a higher sex drive back then, as most 16 year olds probably do. You may have noticed unhappy employees. I value your opinion so I really appreciate your comments. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! I cant go on like this forever. We've been married for almost 30 years and have 2 children, aged 16 and 18. Doug, I know you were joking but knowing Linda and what you guys have learned through hard experience, I am willing to bet she did very, very little husband bashing. When approaching your husband about this, don't criticize or apportion blame as this can put the other person on . While your situation isnt unique, it is nevertheless not typical. I was busting my ass and kissing hers at the same timeeven after the magnitude of her betrayal. Im totally fascinated by what people have to say about infidelity and its helpful in challenging myself about what I think. I know now that the only sure thing in this world I can depend on is myself. Compliment him on things he does well, and express gratitude for you. I love to be out and do fun things from traveling to movies to concerts etc. Make sure you can handle your luggage easily. He watches TV all day long and plays computer games on his phone. No matter what the problem is, communication is critical. Yup, I no longer want all the responsibility of doing it all, anymore. Plus, itll give you some time to pursue your own interests instead of thinking for hours: My husband never wants to do anything with me.. It does not matter to whom you are referring.). If you . In answer to. Gizfield, I had put on heaps of weight too after my children, I guess she thought she had the upper hand. Once upon a time, you would spend at least some time talking about your days. My husband said you dont know what was going on his life, what he was dealing with, etc. I totally believe until you honestly think that both affair partners are equally responsible for the affair, under any circumstances,no matter what reasonsthey give, no matter who they are, yourself or others, it is being defensive. d. regardless of what others choose, I can still choose to be a happy person. I'd go with an ultimatum: remind him you're not his servant, nor a . Not until later on the drive home did I learn what the gals were chatting about. The money he gets will be spent and gone. Cuz if he doesn't communicate whatsoever, you're really just communicating with yourself. Of course, this isnt to say that you should never come first. They were also agitated, aggravated and fed up. He goes to bed whenever he wants and gets up whenever he wants. It can take months for them to grasp the idea that they and they alone are responsible for the choices they made and the ensuing crap storm that resulted. she willingly goes to counseling but I dont think think she puts much effort towards repairing our marriage. Try not to take it personally if he seems distant. Suggest ways to wind down together after a long day instead of just vegging out in front of the TV. Your story proves my point. I guess if Ive found any silver lining in my situation it has been establishing a value of self worth that cannot be skewed by anyone and as was said before no more blind faith. It was a little thing, but it allowed you to keep up to date with the important (and, yes, sometimes the not so important) goings on in each other's lives. Use that time to bond with him, leash-train and you should be good. What a shame eg, they are not going to see it. Im glad its over for you. Certainly you must determine that there is nothing more serious physically going on as well. The 10 signs that your husband is not happy in your marriage 1. So now I feel like if were not doing something exciting all the time Im gonna lose her again. My husband doesn t want to spend time with me; it hurts. My h and I were the same, it was my h brokenness stress and depression, midlife crsis (he had these dreams of retiring at 40) too, we hadnt argued, I was loving, faithful and there for him, there was really no reason for this to happen to us. It is so easy to make our lives about our kids. Thank you exercise grace and for cryinoutloud, I appreciate your kind words. Most of the Time My Husband Doesn't Want to do Sh*t 67 by Linda and Doug Those were the words that one of our friends told Linda recently Saturday night we met up with two other couples who we consider to be some of our closest friends. When it comes to a conclusion my husband doesn t want to spend time with me, an affair is one of the most common reasons. That's as good a moment as any to assess your connections and consider if your friends are just busy, or if they're brushing you off for another reason. I feel like I need to turn into a stepford wife. I hate how uncomfortable and insecure this makes me feel in our marriage. There is one of three reasons . Particularly in a long term relationship. Gradually, he's changed, and his hygiene has gotten worse and worse. I feel like I have to force him. The most irksome part of this entire process is that it is completely backward from what it should be. Need help with your relationship? He either doesn't want to be seen with her or he doesn't want someone else to see him while he is with her. Most of our friends were developed through the people we have met in those activities (those mentioned in this post excluded). My husbands whore weighed roughly a hundred pounds MORE than me. First, talk to him about how youre feeling and see if theres anything he can do to change the situation. IMHO. But living with a depressed person takes the life out of you. I get upset just thinking about it. They work, because one of my girlfriend's husband was having trouble getting hard and he ordered one.. She is so proud of . At the same time, ask for them to tell you their fears or uncertainties and LISTEN. I think Ive done my share. Im worthy f respect, from him and his family, he should stand by my every time his family disrespect me. This is separate from and at times in spite of, others around me. My husband doesn t like spending time with my family, but why? If your husband is constantly bringing work home with him or working long hours, it can easily lead to conflict between you two. Most husbands work outside the home to provide for the family. 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